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Wedding Dress Dilemma

No don’t worry, it’s not time to run off and buy a hat just yet… me and ginger boy are not getting married or anything ridiculous like that, but we have been invited to our first wedding as a couple! Ooh! I am not even his plus one, my name was on the invite and everything! Anyway so my title was a little misleading… I am not having a dilemma over a wedding dress as such… but a dress for a wedding… but well, that wasn’t quite as catchy!

Actually it’s more like dresses than dress as we are going to about four weddings this year but one at a time… So what do people wear to Weddings these days? It has been years since I went to one and I am having major panics over too dressy/ not dressy enough, too revealing/ too frumpy, long/ short, colours allowed/ colours secretely forbidden…. aaaah! It’s all a bit too much…
The first one is in a couple of weeks and is being made all the more difficult because ginger boy is the best man and I know precisely no-one! I can’t even gage how other people will be dressing… I am also envisioning being put on the ‘all the random extras that we don’t know’ table… All I can think of is that episode of Sex and the City where they all turn up to that wedding wearing black and Samantha gets stuck sitting next to that Turtle guy with the bad breath… hmmm on the plus side I do get put up in a plush hotel for the weekend!
So this weekend while ginger boy was at the stag do, I decided to concentrate on finding an outfit! Its a long weekend, which is a perfect as it means I can have one day for high street shopping, one day for vintage shopping and one day for ‘oh crap I have spent two whole days shopping and still haven’t found anything, so just buy something… anything!‘ shopping… So far I have ascertained a few rules of wedding etiquette… no white, cream or ivory, no red, nothing too fashionable or avant garde and basically nothing that could be accused of stealing the brides thunder… easy right?
Hmm… yesterday I tackled the high street, I hit the Westfield shopping centre – a little out of the way but I figured easier as everything was under one roof… I came home with four dresses (ah success I hear you say) none of which I could wear to a wedding (uhhhh ok spoke too soon)
The main issue I have with high street is that whatever I buy and however beautiful, there is the awful possibility that someone else could be wearing the same thing… Also it seems this season is all about lace and pastels meaning nearly everything was cream and floaty and completely out of bounds. I despise those satiny knee length Coast style prom dresses but did find myself trying a few on in despair… I found a lovely dress in French connection that screams wedding guest that doesn’t want to stick out too much perfection… but am I right in thinking that French connection is everyone’s (who doesn’t want to spend more than Β£150 on a dress they will wear once) one stop shop for wedding gear??? I thought so…
It’s very pretty – little puff sleeves, open back, cute bow at the waist, neutral colours… but it’s all a bit too plain, the only interesting bit is the back which means I couldnt wear a jacket and the weather isn’t exactly a forgone conclusion these days, I have no clue what footwear I would wear and I’m not even sure if the colours are very me… in short BB isn’t really a plain kinda girl… and this is what I find difficult about events such as weddings… I feel forced to compromise on my usual fashion self in order to fit in and not upset anyone. If I ever get married I will make a point of there being no rules on dressing – wear red if you dare, wear a slutty leather bodycon number if you feel good in it… hell dress up as a playboy bunny for all I care!
So with high street shopping down, here is what I came home with:
Dress number 1: cotton T-shirt maxi dress from Oasis… this had nothing to do with the wedding what so ever but I love it… normally maxi dresses come up short on me because I’m fairly tall but Oasis seem to make theirs extra long so this one is perfect. I have a couple of those strappy floaty maxis lurking in the wardrobe from last summer but always feel a bit too dressy wearing them, this one is just like a t-shirt and nice and loose – a belt around the middle and a denim jacket… done!
Dress number 2: this one is potentially a potential for the wedding! Pale pink and white lace floaty smock dress from Topshop… I really like this dress, it’s very 70’s festival chic and the floaty sleeves remind me of my mum’s wedding dress which I adore, I have just had a massive heavy fringe cut in and feel very boho in it and I love pink! I am thinking silver accessories, a belt, a cute vintage beaded clutch and a big flower in my hair, perhaps a pleat… but I’m just not sure if it is dressy enough or whether I will just look like I am heading to Woodstock… also it’s Topshop!! everyone shops in Topshop… again the chances of ‘oh haha you got this one too’ occuring are perhaps too great!
Dresses number 3 & 4: Two vintage numbers from Topshop’s vintage range… a black and white polkadot swing dress (which needs shortened – I don’t suit knee length) and a red pleat front tea dress which is lovely but is red and neither of them are nearly dressy enough. It’s ok though as I was a little cheeky and even though they weren’t in the sale, I put sale tickets on them meaning I got them for a lot cheaper than I should have… but Topshop vintage is waaaay overpriced anyway so I don’t feel too bad!
I have an idea of what I would like and it goes something like this…
  • Lilac or purple – I suit lilac as I have pale skin and dark hair and it works for me…
  • Little cap sleeves – I hate my arms and it’s an all day event so don’t want to be cruising around in a strapless number if it’s not sunny…
  • fitted at the waist with a full skirt (possibly pleated) – I have big hips so prefer to hide them, but a small waist and long legs…
  • possibly ruffled and in a chiffon fabric – just because it would be nice…
  • short enough to show some leg and not have to wear ridiculously high heels – I would love to but again it’s an all day and all night event and I need to wear something that won’t cripple me…
overall something simple yet chic that could be jazzed up with accessories… I want to look cute and demure…
… kind of like Lauren Conrad at Heidi and Spencer’s wedding in The Hills… but lilac…
Is that too much too ask? maybe this is why I am having trouble finding something… anyway it’s vintage day today so I will fill you in tomorrow on how it goes…

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